we take ourselves too seriously

how to do moj masti, adopt humility & have more fun

“masti nahi rukni chahiye yaaaaaar”

— heet, a 102 times today

because yaar it would be quite apt to tag ourselves as one of the most ‘overwhelmed’ generations of all time. optionality man, that’s a boon or bane basis the context you view it in. but we’re born with the curse to live life in a gazillion ways — with so many options for literally any choice you’d like to make. want to travel in india? 11 places. abroad? 42. next job? 12 exciting startups. new shoes? you like 7 models. netflix? 12423 titles. you get the jig.

there could’ve been a 100 thousand different ways our life would’ve panned out so far. so many tangents. a yes/no could make the world’s difference. the abundance of choices, products, jobs, decisions, people.. they can make us second guess our decisions so much. so much. very few know how to trust themselves without ever looking back, and i’m proud of u if you’re one of them. there’s more & more people who’re taking the leap of faith to do what they like, without regrets, and it only makes me incredibly happy whenever i hear someone talk about it. i feel like roooting for them with all i gottt.

for the rest, who just can’t seem to be at ease with your decisions, no matter how big or small, who run away from taking that bold, courageous call, please mindfully choose & prioritise having fun over every lidul thing you’re worried about. that money goal, promotion, that car, that crush of yours, that accomplishment you’re hyper fixated on — sab kuch miljayega tumhein. what you’ve got to prioritise right now is to do masti, be happy & smile till your cheeks hurt. and this is for all of us btw. for us leap of faith-ers, who went in & don’t regret it, hum bhi dhyaan rakhte hai thoda.

kyunki bad bosses, failed companies, loooong working hours, being alone, chu*iye dost, bad decisions — sab kuch unavoidable hai. ek hi cheez control mein hai — moj masti, having fun, loving yourself, doing what you really truly enjoy. if you aren’t having fun what you do, how you live through your days or enjoy the people around you — you will struggle to find the strength to smile through the Ls, and a life without moj masti.. might just not age well for you.

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additionally, a mindset that helps me QUITE a lot is that we’re 3-4-5 year olds in a 40 year long life (remove the first 20 & last 10 years of your lives (assuming you won’t be at your peak & you go on to live till you’re 80). you’re learning to walk & it’s ok to make mistakes/fail. it won’t matter. your 6 month gap, 2 years in the wrong industry etc etc doesn’t matter as much as you think it does. you’re better off doing what you feel like than trying to over-optimise for these things, brdr

that goal we’re all fixated on will eventually move a lil further away every time you inch closer to it. your career, your life, your dreams, your watches, your cars, your trips — all of these are moving goal posts. all of them.

we are in the matrix. human beings are wired to “chase” — we will always be found climbing this aspirational ladder of life. the second most practical step to peace, after accepting sadhana, is to likely detach from all the goals, wins, objects, things. and just optimise for peace & happiness? at least that’s what i believe

and this does not mean that we don’t chase dreams, we do.

dreams, hopes, our future, ambition — they fuel us. that’s what drive is all about.

but i have been worried about the outcome a lot. when i say a lot, i mean getting attached to the outcome more than the journey, more than experience, more than the craft itself. it’s a lidul toxic when you’re attached to it so much. you need to be obsessed with results, but i’ve grown enough to know that there’s only a few things you can really control. relentless input is one of those few.

3 of which i think will fuel all my dreams are patience, consistency & just being in the present. and i’ve struggled with all 3 & even if you have don’t struggle with those 3, for me it’s been a TASK.

the first 2 probably makes sense at ease, but being present, ah lord. it’s a lesson that i’m living through in a harsh way. living in dreams & debts of the past will confuse (read: ruin) you. eventually, you’ll be lost. you will have a destination you want to get to. but if don’t know the current location of your soul — even god can’t give you the right direction my child. tumhein bas ye pata hona chahiye ki tum ho, to ho kaha? and that’s why being present is important

humari buri aadat khatam nahi hoti hai — we love to complain about the situation & are desperate to get out of it. but we don’t know where we are when we aren’t in touch with our spiritual self, our gut, our true-est calling, our deepest beliefs. it’s easy when you don’t know. it’s hard when you know what it is, but you can’t confront it or do something about it. it’s the conscious decisions you make well-aware of how bad they are for you.

the next worst buri aadat is this feeling of entitlement..

our un-earned importance, our feelings, our opinions, our decisions — so important to us. we almost think the world owes it to us, wanting everyone to acknowledge them, like them, respect them, care about them.

once adopted, an extension of this non-entitlement thinking will channelise in situations when you won’t give respect by default to people irrespective of what title they hold, how much money they make or what they’ve built in the past. you will make sound judgements based on what you think today & not what you’re supposed to think as a member of the society.

because me, you, these high-status people i called out feel like this (sometimes)

our dreams are important. our beliefs are, to us. our opinions are important to us. but NOT to the rest of the world.

not to anybody else. you aren’t ENTITLED TO ANYTHINGGG. you aren’t entitled to live till 60, you aren’t entitled to meet the “true potential of your being”, you aren’t entitled to getting rich, you aren’t entitled to anybody’s time, effort or their care for you. it’s not fair for you to give anything enough power over you, you know?

because there are AT LEAST 14,000,605 variables, accidents, miracles between you & your supposed dreams my friend. kuch bhi galat ho sakta hai. because we don’t control shi*t.

we’re a cosmic spec of fkin dust. we’re containers. we’re here to play a role. we’re one amongst the 8 billion. we’re irrelevant. kill your ego, let it die, take it between your own two hands & strangle it. reduce the importance YOU think YOU have on this world. you’re not important. i’m not important. detach yourself from money, your thoughts, your dreams, your goals, your work. because my older state wasn’t healthy. i gave my thoughts, my bank balance, my status, my identity too much importance.

my liberation was found in observing & accepting the dynamic nature of these supposedly important things.

i don’t know if you have, but i haven’t moved on from the nothingness i feel when i look up towards the sky, the seemingly blue-ish coloured vast canvas. how often do you wonder — can i paint my own reality? we as humans love to fill-up empty spaces with pieces of ourselves, don’t we? even the clouds have fun, get creative — forming those white enormous creatures acting still. similarly, the nights are more like a dream — vast, endless, shiny, black-ish space.

The night sky is a dignified black princess freckled with the stars. Get lost in her beauty to find it in your darkness.

as a species, we humans beings long to seek the unknown. not just me there are many who look up for answers. we find comfort in the “to each his own”.

the cosmos, matter, the universe in it’s entirety, exists within us. we may not have been really born to help get the rich richer, you know. we were likely born to enjoy what makes us happy, find nirvana within our teeny little lives. to explore, to wander, to wonder, to stumble — to find the oasis where our soul, body & mind meet each other. when the holy trinity aligns - is where i’d meet the purpose of my existence. it is where one will find happiness, one will be self sufficient, one will be just “enough”, despite the Ls they will take post this trinity aligning. as i said once, losses aren’t avoidable, but they hurt the most when you let them. when you’re unstable wandering in the middle of the 3-body problem (iykyk)

the equilibrium where your soul is content, your body is health & your mind is healthy & thriving. this state exists, and all my efforts are in vain - if they aren’t aligned to find these.

our gift, as humans is consciousness. our curse is in intellect, in self righteous-ness. in thinking binary. thinking in 0s & 1s ~ good vs bad, the right vs the wrong — thinking in the rigid realms of dichotomy.

if you still can’t feel ok tolerating the unknown, read this. if you ever lose perspective of self, world around..

think about how everything in this universe is just a mix & match of the atoms that were spewed 13 billion years ago. during the big bang. the first element formed was hydrogen. hydrogen elements later fused to form helium. helium atoms merged to form beryllium & this has been going on & on & on for 13 billion years and will likely continue for a 100 more. the first hydrogen atoms gave rise to stellar gas, stars, galaxies, black holes, planets, uni-celluar life, multicellular life & humans.

you are the universe, honey. the universe is you. that 13 billion old cosmic energy is still running through you. your form is temporary; enjoy while it lasts. life will go on, space-time will keep expanding, your bodily atoms will disperse after death, you will change forms. it will go on. we’re a tiny speck of cosmic dust. live your part; make it count.

/// random notes

yes i had decided in the last week’s blog that i may not write any further. largely because i don’t think my grammar, flow & communication via text has been a1. i dont enjoy written texts in general — i feel i do a 11,420x better job wrt to communication, being engaging when im talking irl 1v1. and hence i’m publishing monologue-like-vlogs on YT. i suck balls so far. will share link when i’m happy with the output.

and while i preach about not taking life toooo seriously/ i’m experimenting a new hack for enterprises to take me seriously lol (kyunki, masti nahi rukni chahiye)

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